Managing relations has become one of the challenging necessities for not only individuals but also for countries and business organizations.
Is managing relations enough? No, one needs to constantly aim towards savoring their relationships too.
Managing relationships simply means to do everything possible to maintain connections and keep the relationship continuous for reasons such as family ties, friends, colleagues and so on. Savoring relationships on the other hand aims towards enhancing connections and growing them more and more not only in numbers but in real terms of quality. Savoring relationships focuses on something deeper than just maintaining or managing them. The seed of true relationship blooms only when people savor their relationships rather than just thinking of how to manage or maintain these connections and to keep them alive.
Let's understand how one can transform from managing or maintaining relationships to savoring or enjoying relationships:
Use the magical words 'Missing You' while communicating with each other and especially on festivals or gatherings where the other person is unable to attend. When a large part of a group, family or friends meets up, the others who are not able to attend should be communicated to about them being missed. This is a very simple and basic gesture, but it leaves a very emotional impact on the people.
Schedule regular meet ups or gatherings with online meeting option for everyone in the family or group. Everyone should be given a chance to speak and share including children. No one should be felt left out. Regular gatherings or conversations are effective tool in enhancing relationships and setting a culture of togetherness for the family or the particular group. The perfect example of this is celebrating atleast one festival or event together annually.
Appreciate everyone for their work and contribution whether at home or otherwise. When people are appreciated, understood and motivated to give their best amidst challenges, the relationship gets new wings.
Avoid any toxicity in relationships by respecting each other's choices, freedom, privacy, decisions and so on. Most of the times we spoil relations by arguing or commenting on these aspects of one's personal life which should be avoided. Instead, one should listen to the challenges that are being faced by others in their work environment or generally and then helping each other to overcome these challenges thereby strengthening the bond with each other.
Avoid all sorts of discrimination or comparison. Avoid competition within your family or the concerned group as the outside world is already full of competition. Instead, use each other's good qualities to show strength that your family or group possesses. Just as a tree treats all its branches equally, all the members of the family or the group should be treated equally.
Research shows that when relationships involve appreciation, gratitude, joyful experiences, and emotional intimacy, it has surpassed the manageable criteria and reached the level of enjoying or savoring the relationship. When one has reached this level of relationship, it will give the people involved the following benefits:
Reduced stress
Mental wellbeing
Happiness and satisfaction
Stronger bonding
Greater resilience
Meaningful and never-ending relationships
Excellent understanding
Happy memories to cherish
Motivation to do better in life
Trust and security
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